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在陶西一家给了迈克安全而温暖的环境后,迈克内心中白墙瓦解,取而代之的,是他内心强大的自我修复。
曾经看过一部小说,是孙惠芬老师的《寻找张展》,文中的“张展”也是一个问题十足的少年,童年少年的创伤令其有着无法被世人理解的脾性。而成年后的他,却选择在聋哑学校做美术老师,在临终医院做志愿者,他用自己的柔软,治愈着那些伤痕累累的躯体与心灵,在反哺世人,在自我需求的满足中,获得了内心的平静。
我想,迈克也是这样一个人,充满创伤的童年在得到疗愈后,他选择了以保护自己的家人,这样的方式报答。迈克最终的强大,是教练对不公裁判吼出的这一句:
笑了,有没有!
迈克笑了,他知道,终于有陶西一家以外的人,将他当作成员看待了。前文中提到,迈克的“自我保护”意识得到了超高的分数,而当教练吼出“i will defend him like he's my son”的时候,他获得了充分的尊重,开始以“自我”而非“他者”行动,自我需求爆发,为其带来了强大的力量,使得球队载誉而归。迈克一打成名了。👇
甚至说起了美式冷笑话👇
像不像一个孩子?
迈克的内心融化,他卸下盔甲后,开始像孩子的内心走去。开始回归自己的本位,做一个无忧无虑的孩子。
影片后半段,迈克在陶西先生的启发下,写了一篇关于勇气与荣耀的作文:
Courage is a hard thing to figure. You can have courage based on a dumb idea or a mistake, but you’re not supposed to question adults, or your coach, or your teacher because they make the rules. Maybe they know best but maybe they don’t.
It all depends on who you are, where you come from. Didn’t at least one of the six hundred guys think about giving up and joining with the other side? I mean, Valley of Death, that’s pretty salty stuff.
That’s why courage is tricky. Should you always do what others tell you to do? Sometimes you might not even know why you’re doing something. I mean, any fool can have courage.
But honor, that’s the real reason you either do something or you don’t. It’s who you want to be. If you die trying for something important then you have both honor and courage and that’s pretty good.I think that’s what the writer was saying; that you should try for courage and hope for honor. And maybe even pray that the people telling you what to do have some, too.
一向没有勇气的迈克,开始谈论“勇气”,并悟出勇气之向,该为“荣誉”。我们不难知道,迈克正在重建自己的世界观。或者说,他正在建构自己的世界观。
童年的遭遇给了他向内的性格和柔软的内心,他缺乏爱,而蓄积爱。陶西一家的进入,他有了向外的张力,他又了勇气,甚至懂得为荣耀而战。
这,大概是教育者们对孩子的教育中,最想看到的结果吧。